You’ve come to the realisation that the allure of pornography, masturbation, and orgasm isn’t the ticket to well-being your adolescent self once thought it was. It’s akin to warning a child that an excess of chocolate can decay one from the inside out.
“But how can that be? It’s so pleasurable!”
In your quest for answers, you venture into the depths of the internet and stumble upon discussions surrounding celibacy, semen retention, and the notorious ‘nofap’ community. These discussions, rife with tales of superpowers and immense benefits, grip your attention, launching you into a transformative journey. Initially, you succeed.
One week turns into two, and then months pass. Yet, as time progresses, a fog settles in, and irritability creeps in, leading you to question the path you’ve chosen. It’s a phenomenon commonly referred to as the ‘flatline’—a phase marked by dullness, emptiness, and a pervasive apathy towards life.
But here’s the crucial point: many individuals never truly understand why this ‘flatline’ occurs and whether it’s a necessary step at all. Let’s delve into the reasons behind it.
Your brain’s neural chemistry has been on a rollercoaster ride since the discovery of those enticing pixels online. Gary Wilson’s research sheds light on the perilous effects of pornography, likening them to class A drugs like heroin and cocaine. Astonishingly, people seem content ‘holding’ these addictive substances within the confines of their pockets.
Once you cut off this surge of dopamine from your brain’s circuitry, it takes time to return to baseline. You endure a withdrawal period, a phase where most individuals revert to old habits, unable to resist the pull of pleasure.
However, if you persevere, something beautiful happens. Colours become vibrant again, music resonates more deeply, and food tastes richer.
Essentially, you become exquisitely attuned to dopamine, appreciating its subtle joys, like a leisurely walk in the park. The analogy that is always comparable in this state in the innate wonder and joy one experienced as a child returns in full force.
Repressing & Suppressing vs Transmutation
Remaining sexually continent builds up a potent force—the Hindus aptly term it ‘shakti’. Yet, if you don’t harness this energy, you end up repressing and suppressing it.
Irritation, frustration, and an overwhelming sense of apathy—classic symptoms of the ‘flatline’. Scientifically, this process is rooted in our nervous system. For years, our neural pathways have been wired to connect pelvic muscles and sexual organs exclusively with orgasm and ejaculation.
During abstinence, tension accumulates in this region as the body anticipates the usual release. When it doesn’t happen, this tension intensifies. Here’s the secret: you can create new neural pathways intentionally.
Through focused breathing and activating pelvic floor nerves (kegels), you can redirect this tension back into the spinal cord, channeling it through various nerve plexuses and storing it in the ganglia—clusters of nerves.
This transformative practice is pivotal. Merely abstaining isn’t enough; you must retrain your body, guiding nervous energy through intentional breath, focus, and muscular contractions.
Remember, it’s not just about abstaining; it’s about mastering the art of channeling and transforming your energy, paving the way for true alchemy and self-transformation.